However, when Rose died last March, a bizarre twist and change in the professional relationship left widower George Lomas himself facing a bill for thousands of pounds.
After Rose died, Lomas asked Wakefield to continue to visit him his home, for fewer hours than before, to help the 77 year old, as he struggled to come to terms with the loss of his wife.
The Daily Mail reported that the arrangement continued for just a few days, but the day after the funeral, the 55-year-old Carer Jayne Wakefield handed in her notice, and then asked George Lomas for redundancy pay.
She said she had been forced to resign as her hours had been reduced from 30 hours a week to 16 hours without notice, and she had received no written offer.
The Daily Telegraph reported Lomas as saying: "How was I supposed to give notice? You don't have notice when your wife is going to die."
He was considered as being her employer, because for those few days after his wife's death, he had been paying her privately, so he was personally liable.
ACAS confirms that this is how it works for a private employee: "When an employer dies it is classed as a frustration of contract. This means their contract ended on the day the employer died. The employee would not be entitled to notice pay but would qualify for a statutory redundancy payment if they had worked for this person for at least two years."
Lomas did not pay, so the former carer Wakefield took him to an employment tribunal, where she was initially given nothing. However, on appeal she received £3,568 in redundancy pay and compensation for constructive unfair dismissal and breach of contract.
If you use a carer provided by an agency, the agency employs the carer and deals with their legal responsibilities. If you use a self-employed carer - who has other clients, has control over when they work, and issues regular invoices - then the carer themselves will take on these responsibilities.
These include dealing with their tax and national insurance through PAYE, sick pay, holiday pay, and ensuring that your home insurance covers you for any liabilities.
The experts say that for most people, using an agency or a self-employed carer becomes the most sensible approach, as we show above. If you choose not to take this route, it is essential to have a signed contract of employment, and so you both understand what is involved, and hopefully no nasty surprises further down the line.